tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post470029199992755044..comments2023-11-02T10:22:48.458+00:00Comments on Too Young for a Midlife, Too Old for a Tantrum: BeginningThe Woman who Canhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12369918534461488884noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-49488250321168210952007-12-03T13:49:00.000+00:002007-12-03T13:49:00.000+00:00So, you were married to a control freak. Narcissi...So, you were married to a control freak. Narcissitic little swines that get their jollies putting you on a pedestal, isolating you from friends and family and then when they have you all to yourself, set about chipping away at your self esteem and, emotional and mental state. The little turds are more common than we give credit for. <BR/><BR/>You are lucky - because you are you. He has to live with himself for the rest of his life and he will most likely end up alone - sweet justice! <BR/><BR/>Adoption - I agree with MMOF in that the 60's was not a good time to have a child out of wedlock. Did you ever want to trace her or your father? There is many a heartbreaking story behind a child given up for adoption and it is usually not about rejection but lack of family support, poverty, shame, and whatever other old crap that was put upon single mothers in their day. <BR/><BR/>That woman probably holds you dear in her heart and feels it break a little more every day that she moves emotionally further away from you. That little girl standing on the sidelines is in every one of us so you are not alone there because you were adopted - there are a few million others right there alongside you so budge up and make some room!<BR/><BR/>But I can only try to empathise with you as I haven't experienced it.menopausaloldbag (MOB)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04320287770097378027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-33530383551300291552007-12-02T13:48:00.000+00:002007-12-02T13:48:00.000+00:00Aims, that's just wat I need! A cheerleader! But y...Aims, that's just wat I need! A cheerleader! But you're going to need to relocate...<BR/><BR/>Rainbow, am damned if I know what I want at the moment. Am a bit wing and a prayer at the moment. Thank you.<BR/><BR/>Belle, she comes through more often than a lot of people know. Thank you.<BR/><BR/>MMOF, thank you so much. And I'm all for a third wedding. Don't they say, third time's a charm?<BR/><BR/>Crystal, that's very perceptive, as I'd expect. I hope it will come in time.<BR/><BR/>SM, thank you so much.<BR/><BR/>Stinking Billy, how lovely of you to visit! I swear you've made me laugh so much that I'm tempted to change the name of my blog to the one that you misread. It's so much better. Will be over to ctach up with you soon.<BR/><BR/>Mr Anonymous, there are often the darkest days just before the Spring, but know that the lighter ones are surely coming. You know your Second Mate is always ready.<BR/><BR/>Mid-lifer, we see you so infrequently these days! Thank you for coming again, we miss you.The Woman who Canhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12369918534461488884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-22723264916219598472007-12-01T11:29:00.000+00:002007-12-01T11:29:00.000+00:00I agree with the others Tina. he may have played ...I agree with the others Tina. he may have played a part in who you are now, but really it's you...<BR/><BR/>xxMid-liferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18259190343085788311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-6573718074386022007-11-29T22:07:00.000+00:002007-11-29T22:07:00.000+00:00Don't ya love the November weather Tina. I mean, ...Don't ya love the November weather Tina. I mean, all summer I've been cheerful and optimistic, and now it's cold and pissing down and I just realised why my life is pants. Oh well.<BR/><BR/>It's 7 below here in Prague, my scene is breaking up, people moving on or going home, I don't know what to do about Christmas and my kids aren't talking to me (ungrateful not-so-little gits) I've got the dentist tomorrow, too, but at least they are cheap here. Don't take on so about children; however hard you try, they grow up and shaft you, trust me. Still, I am glad I know you and Belle, and I am glad that Spring follows Winter, and that we will all be laughing together soon, possibly idiotically.<BR/><BR/>Boating in the Spring. Keep your diary clear.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-42562475197828138682007-11-29T12:31:00.000+00:002007-11-29T12:31:00.000+00:00Tina, I swear to God that my first glimpse of your...Tina, I swear to God that my first glimpse of your title looked like "Too young for a midwife, too old for a tampon." ;-)<BR/><BR/>However, your tale was a serious one indeed, and has me feeling guilty about accidentally missing you out (and another new addition to my links) of a post earlier this week.<BR/><BR/>I'll catch you next time, though.<BR/><BR/>You tell a heart-rending tale.Stinking Billyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13577508577062044906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-32917701571091345942007-11-28T13:53:00.000+00:002007-11-28T13:53:00.000+00:00Tina, you are your own woman. And you sound just ...Tina, you are your own woman. And you sound just great.Swearing Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07277450057243928790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-76049596755965355852007-11-28T12:51:00.000+00:002007-11-28T12:51:00.000+00:00I can only echo the other commenters. You are you...I can only echo the other commenters. You are your own person. You have to learn to love yourself, love what you hold deep inside. That little girl in the playground has gone. She has become a woman with responsibilities. You are a strong person now, you are a mother. You are warm and loving are more than capable at standing on your own two feet. Perhaps he did help you to break free and save your son but he didn't do it for you. <BR/><BR/>Crystal xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-25416337621949114422007-11-27T19:15:00.000+00:002007-11-27T19:15:00.000+00:00Hi lovely. I have read and re-read this post and ...Hi lovely. I have read and re-read this post and am not sure where to start!<BR/><BR/>OK, marriages - I am on my THIRD! First one was a complete disaster - married on the Saturday after a 12 week whirlwind romance and he hit me for the first time the following Thursday..... Second one was a nice guy but totally unsuited to me. I guess its been third time lucky for me..... So don't beat yourself up about it - we go into these things full of optimism and sometimes it goes spectacularly pear shaped. All part of the learning curve and I have certainly learned from all my experiences.<BR/><BR/>That your son's father managed to make you feel so uncertain of your maternal skills REALLY made my blood boil. Respect to your friend for supporting you and giving you sound advice.<BR/><BR/>Adoption - a minefield of emotions. I have some experience but not directly..... I would offer that you are a child of the 60's if my maths hasn't let me down when single motherhood wasn't even part of the vernacular.... Your birth mother probably had no choice in the decisions made for your future...... You were so special that your adopted mother CHOSE you. Remember that - you were the most precious gift anyone could ever receive..... <BR/><BR/>Ok, think I've covered everything. Can understand you wanting him in your life as he's been such a good friend but YOU are responsible for who you are.<BR/><BR/>Phew. As ever, much love XManic Mother Of Fivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12181042998628457061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-17483478090934726382007-11-27T18:24:00.000+00:002007-11-27T18:24:00.000+00:00Tina, my lovely, this is heart rending. That litt...Tina, my lovely, this is heart rending. That little girl lost in the playground sometimes still peeps through. Don't credit him with everything. Rainbow and Aims are right, You created You. He supported and nutured you, but you're the one who did it.bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09356982330855702882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-54228120214168887992007-11-27T10:36:00.000+00:002007-11-27T10:36:00.000+00:00No sweetheart - YOU've made you the woman you are....No sweetheart - YOU've made you the woman you are. Other people have helped, good and bad, but you're the one who should take the credit. <BR/><BR/>From what I can read here you are a great mother and a really warm-hearted person. I've been in similar places and my own opinion is you need some distance - but it's your call.<BR/><BR/>Good luck with whatever you choose<BR/>xxRainbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04162329049773262412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-16163634618641016282007-11-26T21:49:00.000+00:002007-11-26T21:49:00.000+00:00He may have helped - but you are your own strong p...He may have helped - but you are your own strong person - that you created and recreated - time and again...each time better than the last. <BR/><BR/>Cheering for you from the sidelines......aimshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12685252628734838159noreply@blogger.com