tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post8862129704105146306..comments2023-11-02T10:22:48.458+00:00Comments on Too Young for a Midlife, Too Old for a Tantrum: When is a Relationship not a Relationship?The Woman who Canhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12369918534461488884noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-46783397004286417472008-02-16T17:04:00.000+00:002008-02-16T17:04:00.000+00:00MMOF, he's a brave man if he messes with you! Casd...MMOF, he's a brave man if he messes with you! <BR/><BR/>Casdok, thank God. I keep thinking it's just me. If there's anything you need me to clear up, I promise I'll try. Or get Belle to do it.<BR/><BR/>Oh Aims, I'm sure you're right. But I'm not packing my games away just yet. <BR/><BR/>SM, you're a wise woman. And your husband is lucky to have you.<BR/><BR/>MOB, am I glad to see you again! And my heart does still skip.<BR/><BR/>Mid-lifer, thank you! Shall be over in a jiffy!<BR/><BR/>Crystal, I think you and I are on exactly the same page here.<BR/><BR/>K, welcome! If there is better, I'm not sure I'll be ready for him.<BR/><BR/>Debio, lovely to see you again. I like the idea of taking the good bits to my sanctuary. It's a good way of looking at it.<BR/><BR/>Belle, you are as stubborn as I am, and I expect nothing less!The Woman who Canhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12369918534461488884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-70948269503323672372008-02-13T21:14:00.000+00:002008-02-13T21:14:00.000+00:00Well, my lovely, I've held back from commenting be...Well, my lovely, I've held back from commenting because I wanted to see what others would say ... still standing by our phone conversation ;o)bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09356982330855702882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-10709325093356544212008-02-13T17:24:00.000+00:002008-02-13T17:24:00.000+00:00Sorry ladies - I have a regular marriage too and p...Sorry ladies - I have a regular marriage too and put The Man through hell before he even popped the question - yet 11 years into the relationship and he still brings me flowers on a regular basis and presents weekly - just because he wants to. He does the cooking and is cleaner than me. I treasure him and know he might be one of a kind...aimshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12685252628734838159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-17563102935196106842008-02-13T16:50:00.000+00:002008-02-13T16:50:00.000+00:00I'm with the real life relationship and 'it's not ...I'm with the real life relationship and 'it's not all champagne and flowers' bit - but only up to a point.<BR/><BR/>There is nothing romantic about sweaty socks, farting in bed, tears, snotty noses and the whole gamut of emotions both men and women display; let's face it, even if you're wildly besotted with someone, some aspects of human behaviour are not, well, just not appealing.<BR/><BR/>If the way you are being treated becomes not what you want then so be it; but, by God, if he's not to be the love of your life, take hold of the good bits and return to your own sanctuary counting your blessings.<BR/><BR/>But what do I know? <BR/><BR/>Love your 'six of the best' btw!debiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14218049959165514277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-21834662595429925952008-02-13T12:05:00.000+00:002008-02-13T12:05:00.000+00:00I don't know that asking anyone out is relevant.It...I don't know that asking anyone out is relevant.<BR/><BR/>It sounds a good relationship if you want sex and no commitment with a nice guy.<BR/><BR/>But if you do.......then I don't know. <BR/><BR/>The last casual relationship I had was an awful long time ago, but I'm still with him. And the number of times he bought me flowers is probably in single figures.<BR/><BR/>We all have different expectations. If this guy isn't your Prince Charming, or even Nice Bear, I hope the real one turns up for you. KKatherine and Pippahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14563769395873958826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-40851940868643395252008-02-12T18:37:00.000+00:002008-02-12T18:37:00.000+00:00I think you are doing pretty well at 40. Having a...I think you are doing pretty well at 40. Having a fella who you can see occasionally, no smothering or telling you what to do sounds damn good to me.<BR/><BR/>Crystal xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-83288918380450226552008-02-12T11:31:00.000+00:002008-02-12T11:31:00.000+00:00Have nominated you for an award m'dear!Have nominated you for an award m'dear!Mid-liferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18259190343085788311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-76757598528007793222008-02-12T11:12:00.000+00:002008-02-12T11:12:00.000+00:00Oh belated birthday wishes dear Tina. You sound l...Oh belated birthday wishes dear Tina. You sound like you had a good one. As for yer man - I'm with SM on a lot of what she says re the real relationship thing. It's about real life and maybe that is what you have here with him but he's slow to commit or to say the words. Who knowS, but as long as you are having fun and your heart skips a beat when you see him than take things one non date at a time1menopausaloldbag (MOB)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04320287770097378027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-39344321810231828782008-02-11T19:27:00.000+00:002008-02-11T19:27:00.000+00:00Non-relationships are when you are still too polit...Non-relationships are when you are still too polite with each other to say what you really mean, or swear, sulk or shout "fuck" loudly. Proper relationships contain all of the above and more. <BR/><BR/>I don't really think there's a regular and/or continuous place for wine and roses in a proper relationship anyway, unless someone has dropped an almightly clanger and needs to apologise, or if it's Valentine's day. You can buy those things and it can all still mean nothing. A proper relationship is when someone sees you, drunk, tired, fed-up and crying with snot bubbles and a red nose, but still stays with you and loves you just the same. Sod the roses, they fade, but a proper relationship will last longer than that if you're lucky. <BR/><BR/>Any road up, hopefully you seem to be working stuff out, but taking the scenic route around coming to a conclusion as to whether your guy is seriously falling for you or just enjoying your company on an occasional basis. As for him not asking you out, maybe he thinks that bit is academic now and you've moved on from that stage. Or alternatively, he hasn't got a clue how you feel.<BR/><BR/>Basically,I think I'd take each day as it comes and if there are too many days and nights with not enough commitment coming your way (if that's what you want, and I guess it really is), you know your own answer. I think there will come a time when you want to know whether or not you are a couple, or just two people who enjoy each other's company now and again and then only you can work out how you feel about the answer you get. <BR/><BR/>Hear endeth the lesson on love from Swearing Mother: (and what the fuck do I know anyway, I've just spent the whole weekend yelling at my husband, poor sod).Swearing Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07277450057243928790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-82966903511861994372008-02-11T15:50:00.000+00:002008-02-11T15:50:00.000+00:00How old did you say you are? Oh right 40. And him?...How old did you say you are? Oh right 40. <BR/>And him? Don't know if you have said.<BR/>But dear Tina. This is quite a game - and you are getting a little old for games. Sorry.<BR/>You are exactly at the age where you deserve the champagne and roses - and everything!!<BR/>You especially deserve to be asked out.<BR/>Perhaps a peek at our comments is what he needs. <BR/>I know you're hoping the games will turn into a real relationship - but is he enough of a real man - that doesn't play games? <BR/>Here's something a lot of women are finding out. It's the geeks that are the treasures!aimshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12685252628734838159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-7915190290015070382008-02-11T14:04:00.000+00:002008-02-11T14:04:00.000+00:00I am a bit confused!I am a bit confused!Casdokhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03497897393162856190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472987053547096881.post-91205279255429051432008-02-11T12:51:00.000+00:002008-02-11T12:51:00.000+00:00Lovely Tina, I am totally torn here....... Yes, I ...Lovely Tina, I am totally torn here....... Yes, I have to agee with Belle, it does sound like a relationship but not necessarily a HEALTHY relationship...... Has a distinct smell of the gentleman in question having you as and when he wants and then having a clear conscience when he moves on to someone he does want to date. And then, you sound happy, he is obviously looking after...... Fuck me, I just don't know.... Just don't let him hurt you or he'll have me and the five to deal with. OK!Manic Mother Of Fivehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12181042998628457061noreply@blogger.com